I Hate Online Dating, Now What?

Kiara Noelle Kerr By Kiara Noelle Kerr  – March 20, 2016
I Hate Online Dating, Now What?

Yesterday, after my third disappointing date this week, I found myself dramatically proclaiming to my little brother and his friend that I was, “done. Like, done. Like, going to get-a-strapon-and-date-women done.” Then, I get this message from one “KnockOnWood88” asking me whether or not I’m biologically female. Ouch. I hate online dating.

It all seems so easy and harmless until you’re contending with all the feels on a Sunday night. My friend even made up a term to describe this emotional state; he calls it “the meeps.” This is real talk, you guys. I hate online dating. It’s really hard. It’s emotional, it can be disappointing and it can also feel totally endless and overwhelming. Though I’ve certainly gotten better at dealing with its ups and downs, its attendant excitement and disappointment, it still has the capacity to reduce me to an attention-seeking pile of Sunday meeps.

I’ve learned, over the years, what works and what doesn’t work for me as far as dates go. I used to put on swoopy eyeliner every time I went on a date. Mama likes to feel sassy on a first date, and sometimes the swoop eye makes her feel a little Sophia Loren. But after sitting face to face with the evening’s date too many times and remorsefully thinking to myself, “I put on swoopy eyeliner for this?,” I developed my current no swoop policy. Now when I meet the dude and he’s ten years older and thirty-five pounds heavier than in his pictures, I at least don’t have to feel bad about how long I spent putting on eyeliner.

So, experience has helped. It also helps to learn that the fact that I hate online dating is by no means an uncommon experience. Unfortunately, dating in the age of the internet has proven that more choice can paradoxically lead to less success and satisfaction. In this reporter’s humble opinion, dating has never been harder- or weirder. We as consumers need some guidance and some hope. At least that’s what I need right now.

And I think maybe that’s what we’re bringing to the picture with DatingPerfect. Chances are you have an opinion on the matter. What is the dating space missing? How could you feel better supported in the online dating world? What else can DatingPerfect do to help? Click here and scroll down to our feedback button and let us know. 


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Kiara Noelle Kerr
Kiara Noelle Kerr
The DatingPerfect team is glad to feature the racy and sometimes inappropriate perspectives Kiara brings to the table. She loves getting to write highly opinionated op-eds about why online dating sucks, how DatingPerfect is trying to make it suck less, and also enjoys penning articles with sensible answers to the most asked questions in online dating. With a whole lot of online dating experience under her belt and plenty of opinions to share, Kiara’s always got something to say. More than anything, she understands the plight of the modern dater and wants to help. Are you feeling baffled, frustrated, and overwhelmed by online dating? Let Kiara know and she’ll be more than happy to commiserate and add her two cents. Thanks for reading!