It all starts with prayer. And prayer in Islam is a big deal, the same way it is in most other religions. Prayer is the foundation of all marriage values. Devout Muslims will start by asking their god to send their perfect, better half. The person seeking a spouse isn’t the only one asking Allah for guidance, however; the person’s family is also seeking guidance when it comes to a spouse.
The Process of Courtship
Wondering what the Islamic courtship process looks like? These are the four standard phases of Muslim dating and courtship:
- First, the person seeking marriage prays to Allah for a marriage.
- This person’s family then convenes to choose marital candidates whom they feel would make a good spouse for their loved one.
- The family then agrees upon the prospective mate who has the best qualities for their loved one.
- The person seeking marriage may accept the marriage offer or decline it.
The couple begins to spend time together accompanied by a chaperone. But this is only if all parties agree that the marriage is ideal. A chaperone is necessary to guarantee the young couple does not fall into physical temptation.
Muslim Dating or Muslim Courting?
Most conservative Muslims today practice courtship in the same way their ancestors did. It’s generally believed that premarital sex is a result of unchaperoned dating. And premarital sex is considered sinful. The Scriptures encourage unmarried men and women to maintain their chastity until marriage. The Quran also encourages Muslims to marry and start families, and this is the reason many who consider themselves practicing Muslims consider marriage so important.