What is Marriage All About? 3 Unique Points of View

Samantha Elise Oscar By Samantha Elise Oscar  – March 31, 2017
What is Marriage All About? 3 Unique Points of View

Throughout the history of mankind, marriage has meant different things to different people. So, what is marriage all about? For some, it’s been a contract for survival and procreation, for others a political arrangement, and for still others has had more to do with wealth than love. In Western society, we’ve pretty much moved past the days when marriage was arranged for us at a young age, but the essence of marriage hasn’t actually changed that much. These days, weddings are most often arranged by the two people who are getting married, rather than by any outside arrangers. And yet marriage continues to be an agreement between two people based on transactions and expectations.

“But what about LOVE?!”

Maybe some of you people with more romantic sensibilities are reading this and getting upset: “But what about LOVE?!” We’re not excluding the idea of love or romance. On the contrary, we believe that love, romance, friendship, trust, and communication are key components of a successful relationship. What we’re trying to say is that even those sentiments are a matter of transaction based on the expectations between two partners. A marriage is really just two people agreeing, verbally or non-verbally, “I will do these things and expect you to do those things.” At the end of the day, it’s a transaction.


The most successful and best marriages are based on clear and direct communication about what each partner expects to give and receive within the relationship. For the romantic-minded partner, it might be important to lay out what love means to them, how they can most easily feel loved by their partner, and what they’re willing to do in order to demonstrate their love for their partner. If this partner expects romantic dinners on an anniversary, flowers on their birthday, and physical intimacy on a regular basis, it’s important that they be able to express this clearly to their partner.

Business or Pleasure?

For the business-minded couple, the love and romance aspect of the relationship may not be the main priority. They are more concerned with what finances will look like and how they will be managed. The success of this kind of partnership often has more to do with the health of a couple’s finances than anything else. The members of this type of partnership may need to lay out specific parameters for what is acceptable spending or how much money they expect to have in the bank from one year to the next.

Commitment and Kids

Marriage can be a commitment to have children. They might believe that the end goal of marriage is to build a strong and full family life with one another. Having children and raising them well can be a key component to their view of a healthy married life. This members of these types of relationships must be very transparent about their desires and expectations from the start. It is important to communicate clearly and directly in relationships. Your expectations and desires might be very different. And the only way to find this out is through communication.

For most people, however, a healthy, successful union is a combination everything we’ve touched on so far. Marriage is an institution within which a person’s needs are satisfied on a regular basis. This includes emotional, mental, or physical needs, and also a few “let downs” along the way. And, for most people, this success comes from nurturing open lines of regular communication. This means honest exchanges about their home and family life, cooperative management of schedules, finances, and children. It’s also genuine concern for one another’s well-being and full support of each other’s individual priorities and goals.

So What Is Marriage All About?

It’s tricky to try to answer the question of ‘what is marriage all about?’ Marriage and commitment can mean so many different things to each of us. The views of marriage differ widely, since getting married is a personal and individual choice.  Some people understand marriage based on the environment they were raised in and the relationship their parents had. Others view marriage primarily as a religious function. And for still others, marriage is an amalgamation of life experiences. This might be based on popular culture and media, conversations with friends, and the experience of previous relationships.

At the end of the day, we think the question to ask isn’t “what is marriage all about?” but “what does marriage mean to me?”


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Samantha Elise Oscar
Samantha Elise Oscar
Author, Dating Expert Extraordinare
At DatingPerfect, we’re lucky to have Samantha as a regular contributor and key researcher. A dating expert at her core, Samantha’s knowledge of the dating space spans many provocative topics, from marriage tips to sugar dating how-to’s. Samantha has her finger on the online dating pulse and keeps us plugged in to dating’s newest trends, most surprising twists, and biggest stories. Is there a topic you’d love to see Samantha cover? Please contact us if you have an idea for a future story and we’ll get Samantha on it. Thanks for reading!
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